I am 38 years old, have been married for 5, and have been dating a 26-year-old woman (who has also been divorced) for the last 3 years.
However, after 6 months of dating I reached the conclusion that she had a very strong temper, demanded everything her way, and I began to argue very constantly with her. Our relationship went on like this, one month together, 10 days apart – with small variations, but usually like this. In other words, I got used to looking for her only for sex. She looked for me constantly.
The fact is that after 2 years and a half – after many fights – I decided to face her because I realized I like her ways, and we get along very well in sex. But a week ago, when I told her I wanted to get back, she said she was going out with another guy. She has known him since she got divorced (in 1999). I know she goes out with him because he does everything she wants, like taking her out to dinner and stuff...
The fact is that now, 1 week and a half later, I feel she is a bit split. I know he calls her, and they might even have sex. I have the feelings and the intensity. The other guy just does everything she wants.
My question is: Is it normal to be split like this? Or is it crookedness?
Is a week too short of a period for me to recover everything I had from her in the past?
Thanks
26/12/2002
Answer
Maybe she reached the conclusion that it is best for her to be with a man who she won’t have an intense relationship with – since with you, there were many arguments. Things don’t happen all of a sudden. We just don’t notice internal changes that easily.
You’re over 6 feet tall, fought boxing, fight jiu-jitsu, and speak about the inside of you, which is much better than your body. But you barely fill out anything on your profile, leaving whoever it is that will see your profile, to only look at your muscles. You must be an interesting and sensible man, but you do not show it.
You seem extremely doubtful. Maybe you’re afraid that people will take advantage of your feelings. Try to be more alert and less doubtful; a middle term.
There are good and honest women, but the majority likes to take walks, spend in a pretty place, and maybe you’re mad at them so that you won’t be mad at yourself, because according to what you said (in your profile), your income is too small for you to take a girl out to nice places.
Anyway, be patient and believe more in yourself and in women, guiding yourself by what you claim you’ve learned from life. If you want to keep this woman, try to change and understand her ways.
If you don’t want her anymore, respect this decision. Maybe it’s best for both.
Regards and happiness,
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